Try nudging someone! Some people even appreciate it! While I’m pretty on top of my stuff, when I get a nudge reassures me the person intends to use the information for which they are nudging me. I rarely feel pushed unless it’s because I said yes to something I should’ve said no to, in which case it’s on me.
Try nudging someone! Some people even appreciate it! While I’m pretty on top of my stuff, when I get a nudge reassures me the person intends to use the information for which they are nudging me. I rarely feel pushed unless it’s because I said yes to something I should’ve said no to, in which case it’s on me.
That's probably true -- I know that when I am overdue on things for students (like letters of recommendation) I appreciate a *gentle* reminder. Leslie Jamison just had a great essay somewhere (NYT?) about saying NO to things...and in fact keeping a journal of NO, along with what that "no" afforded her: more space for this or that or the other thing. Great essay.
Oh thanks for the tip! I love boundaries - reading about them, complaining when people push against them, enjoying staying home after I've held firm. . . I found the essay - can't wait to read: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/28/well/mind/saying-no.html
Try nudging someone! Some people even appreciate it! While I’m pretty on top of my stuff, when I get a nudge reassures me the person intends to use the information for which they are nudging me. I rarely feel pushed unless it’s because I said yes to something I should’ve said no to, in which case it’s on me.
That's probably true -- I know that when I am overdue on things for students (like letters of recommendation) I appreciate a *gentle* reminder. Leslie Jamison just had a great essay somewhere (NYT?) about saying NO to things...and in fact keeping a journal of NO, along with what that "no" afforded her: more space for this or that or the other thing. Great essay.
Oh thanks for the tip! I love boundaries - reading about them, complaining when people push against them, enjoying staying home after I've held firm. . . I found the essay - can't wait to read: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/28/well/mind/saying-no.html