I got the Things app (srsly, that's what it's called), and paid the one-time fee for cross-device listing. It's freaking beautiful: intuitive and stream-lined: you can make your "TODAY" list, your "projects someday" list...all kinds of Things. That in my case would otherwise be spread across various notes apps, pieces of paper, journals.…
I got the Things app (srsly, that's what it's called), and paid the one-time fee for cross-device listing. It's freaking beautiful: intuitive and stream-lined: you can make your "TODAY" list, your "projects someday" list...all kinds of Things. That in my case would otherwise be spread across various notes apps, pieces of paper, journals...It's great. Like a little pocketful of nudges. My problem with nudging is that I'm always afraid the receiver of the nudge --the nudged-- feels shoved, rather than nudged. It's a fine line, for me, the shovenudge border.
Try nudging someone! Some people even appreciate it! While I’m pretty on top of my stuff, when I get a nudge reassures me the person intends to use the information for which they are nudging me. I rarely feel pushed unless it’s because I said yes to something I should’ve said no to, in which case it’s on me.
That's probably true -- I know that when I am overdue on things for students (like letters of recommendation) I appreciate a *gentle* reminder. Leslie Jamison just had a great essay somewhere (NYT?) about saying NO to things...and in fact keeping a journal of NO, along with what that "no" afforded her: more space for this or that or the other thing. Great essay.
Oh thanks for the tip! I love boundaries - reading about them, complaining when people push against them, enjoying staying home after I've held firm. . . I found the essay - can't wait to read: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/28/well/mind/saying-no.html
I got the Things app (srsly, that's what it's called), and paid the one-time fee for cross-device listing. It's freaking beautiful: intuitive and stream-lined: you can make your "TODAY" list, your "projects someday" list...all kinds of Things. That in my case would otherwise be spread across various notes apps, pieces of paper, journals...It's great. Like a little pocketful of nudges. My problem with nudging is that I'm always afraid the receiver of the nudge --the nudged-- feels shoved, rather than nudged. It's a fine line, for me, the shovenudge border.
Try nudging someone! Some people even appreciate it! While I’m pretty on top of my stuff, when I get a nudge reassures me the person intends to use the information for which they are nudging me. I rarely feel pushed unless it’s because I said yes to something I should’ve said no to, in which case it’s on me.
That's probably true -- I know that when I am overdue on things for students (like letters of recommendation) I appreciate a *gentle* reminder. Leslie Jamison just had a great essay somewhere (NYT?) about saying NO to things...and in fact keeping a journal of NO, along with what that "no" afforded her: more space for this or that or the other thing. Great essay.
Oh thanks for the tip! I love boundaries - reading about them, complaining when people push against them, enjoying staying home after I've held firm. . . I found the essay - can't wait to read: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/28/well/mind/saying-no.html